In life, we’re not very good at predicting which moments will matter later on. So instead of relishing the ending, you flip back through to reread your favorite parts and relive the moments that, in hindsight, were significant themes, turning points, and revelations. When you do, you realize there was no way the ending could have ever lived up to all the great stuff in the middle. If I must compare life to a narrative (and apparently, I must), I’d say it’s more like a good book that you never want to finish. How could a Hollywood Moment ever be assumed when so many people die in ways that make it impossible? When I test this idea of a “meaningful moment” at the end of life against reality, I see that it should be looked upon as a rarity as opposed to the norm. I never told her that she had been the perfect mother, and she never told me she was proud of me and that I was going to be okay.įor a long time, I’ve fixated on the moments I did have at the end of my mother’s life and mourned the ones I didn’t. We never shared a moment where we both knew and accepted she was dying. My mother never sat in her bed, calm and alert, resigned to her death, and ready to receive her family. I guess what I mean is that I never had the Hollywood Moment that, in the movies, is part and parcel of death from a terminal illness. Well, that’s not true, my life with her was filled with significant moments. I took a breath and soaked up the moment knowing that it will be a memory I will treasure forever.įind Arley on Facebook, Twitter and Google+.I didn’t have a meaningful moment with my mother before she died. Looking at the beautiful rock formations and my sleeping angel in the back seat, I felt a love that could only be described as divine. I took my toddler to the Garden of the Gods, but she fell asleep before we even found a parking spot to start our little “hike.” We decided to drive through the park instead. Last weekend’s moment occurred during a trip to Colorado. Rarely do things go as planned, but if I’m present I will almost always find a special moment. One way to do this is to make time to do the things you love. I try to carve out time to capture the moments that make great memories. Look Forward to Future Memory-Making Moments If you feel like you don’t have time to be present, try shifting your mindset from scarcity to abundance. When I’m present for the moments of today they become the memories of tomorrow. But I also know that when I take a deep breath and remind myself to be present something magical happens. It’s easy to feel too busy to sit and read a book with your child-dinner needs to be made, toys need to be picked up, and laundry needs to be done. Sometimes the greatest moments in life pass us by because we are too busy to notice them. Take some time to think about your favorite memories and savor them. The moments and the memories they create are like tiny capsules of joy. But rarely do we take the five minutes to think about our favorite memory with a childhood friend or the time we met the love of our life. Facebook does its part to help with the daily memories it sends us from posts of years past. We often don’t take the time to think back to our favorite memories. Think Back to Your Favorite Memories and Moments I always try to treasure the moments and memories of life. These moments are like a collage imprinted on my heart. And I love the memories of late night card games and shenanigans during college. I cherish those moments I spent rocking my daughter when she was a baby. I used to think my accomplishments would bring me the most joy in my life, but now I know that it’s the moments and memories that I treasure most.
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